The Difference Between Average and Achieving

an article by Barb McEwen

What if changing only one thing could make you more successful? Would you change it? Of course you would.

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It's a simple change to do. All you have to do is apply some simple geometry by applying the try-angle to your life.

The difference between average people and achieving people is their perception of and their response to failure. This impacts every aspect of their lives. Failure is not a single event; it is a process that begins long before the failure.

Many people so fear failure that they give up before they even try. They too quickly isolate events in their life and label themselves as failures. Instead, they ... we ... need to see these events in the context of the bigger picture.

Here are seven things failure is not, from John C. Maxwell's book, Failing Forward: Turning mistakes into stepping stones for success:

Failure is not avoidable – humans are bound to fail sooner or later.

Failure is not an event, but a process. Success is not a destination – it is the journey you take and what you do day to day – success is a process, and so is failure.

Failure is not objective. You are the only person who can label your actions a failure.

Failure is not the enemy – it takes adversity to achieve success. Consider failure as fertilizer.

Failure is not irreversible.

Failure is not a stigma – failures are not permanent markers. Make each failure a step to success.

Failure is not final – failure is simply a price we pay to achieve success and if we learn to embrace that new definition of failure, then we can move ahead.

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Barb McEwen is a Master Executive Coach and Organizational Strategist who works with corporations and individuals worldwide. As founder of 20/20 Executive Coaching and 20/20 Executive Women she has spent the past twelve years working with high potential individuals to help them hone their leadership and management skills. Contact Barb at